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You’ve just been dumped! Geeeeeez it sux right?

If it’s any consolation though, the majority of us have all been there!

Hang in there… you’ll get thru it smiling on the other end (but only if you cast the right spells from this day forward).

Not to rub it in, but I reckon you’re going through sleepless nights, long chats with friends dissecting EVERY message you get back from your ex, depression, the constant thoughts of WHY and most importantly, you’re probably thinking how can I get my ex back.

You’re looking for a magic bullet, that one special secret to get your ex back, right?

As much as we all love quick fixes in life, unfortunately I don’t have a quick fix for you to get your ex back, and I’d very much doubt anyone does.

I remember all too well how it felt when I was dumped by my first real love. It was like going to hell and back.

Unfortunately I went on to lose her forever ONLY BECAUSE I didn’t know what the hell I was doing. (Does that sound like you now? Beware!)

So when my 2nd real love broke up with me, I wasn’t going to let her fall away into a distant memory, and I definitely wasn’t going to hit the booze at night to drown my sorrows.

Instead, I planted the right seeds that eventually won her heart back. It only took me 23 days and was much easier than I thought. Yippeeeee!

One of my neighborhood friends who was going through a break-up grilled me to find out what it was I did to get my ex back. No sooner than telling him my game plan, that another, then another and another started asking me the same questions.

Now I know how a parrot feels.

So my better half suggested I put together some sort of guide disclosing “my pearls of wisdom“. That way I can help way more than just those whom are near me.

I was really hesitant at first… only because I’m a hopeless 2-finger typist, and was enjoying my summer way too much.

But first, let me wind back to when I was dumped. Here’s what was going around in my tiny chicken brain.

1. Why did she break up with me?
2. We can work thru it, if only she’d see that.
3. Why didn’t she talk to me about it?
4. She didn’t give me a chance.
5. I know we’re perfect together.
6. It’s not such a big issue.

Do some of these thoughts sound familiar?

Now let me ask you a question. Do you think they did me any good?

The complete opposite. What a loser I was!

I was wrecking my relationship even more without realising it. What a dumb ass I was… seriously.

You see, it’s no use getting stuck in these type of thoughts. They go nowhere. It’s like a dog chasing its tail.

You need to break out of these counter-productive thoughts, take action and get to work on doing the RIGHT THINGS to getting your ex back.

Now the idea is to look at these thoughts from a completely different angle. If you don’t, you’ve got no chance in hell in getting your ex back.

Here’s what I mean.

Replace each of the numbers above with the numbers below.

1. I’m busy finding this out.
2. I’m finding the best way for this to be sorted out.
3. I’m going to figure out the problems – including why she didn’t open her mouth about it.
4. Perhaps she did and I didn’t see it. Now is the time to take action and see if there are still any chances left.
5. I’m going to show my ex why she needs me.
6. It was an issue for my ex – and perhaps there were other issues that I didn’t see. I’ll find out and sort it out.

So as you can see, before you can ever expect to make things good again, you need to really start by investigating that relationship of yours.

And where things went wrong? (phew… finally got back to the title of this blog post)

So it’s time to wake up and do things the right way.

You need to know what went wrong first, where you stuffed up, and be aware of those areas before you can even contemplate contacting your ex again. (REPEAT THIS LINE AGAIN, IT’S SOOOO IMPORTANT)

You want to avoid putting your foot in the shit again so to speak, and show your ex that you’ve changed for the better. Only then can you stand a hope of getting back together.

Before I go, let me mention that there’s also another part of the equation at work here.

You need to also know what went right, because you’ll use these “rights” as your secret tool for getting the good vibes flowing again.

So don’t give up. You just need to know WHAT to do. It’s time to sharpen your act and perform your magic!

Good luck and have a good weekend (what’s left of it).