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Hi everyone!

What a lovely Sunday morning here with the sun shining. Just finished breakfast and waiting for Karly to fix her hair as we’re heading out on a date to the Hunter Valley. For those who don’t know… it’s one of the best wine regions in Australia.

Anyway, last night I came across an American Demographics report outlining some of the reasons why couples breaks up.

Did you know that:

• 35% of Americans have been through a breakup in the past 10 years?
• And those under 35 are twice as likely to breakup to those in the 35 to 54 age group, and nearly 5 times as likely to those in the 55 and older age group?

So why are so many people breaking up?

Here’s what the report says:

30% OF WOMEN cited as the number one reason leading to their breakup was infidelity. Men weren’t far behind with 28% of men claiming unfaithfulness was their reason behind the breakup.

BUT MEN had a different number one reason as to why their relationship failed. The number one reason why guys broke up with their woman was because they simply “grew apart” (40% versus 29% of women who say the same).

Of course, there is often more than one reason why a relationship heads south.

Respondents were asked to list as many reasons possible that lead to their last breakup. And the results were…

commitment problems and a lack of passion coming up high on the list.

Women are also likely to say physical or emotional abuse as a factor resulting in their last breakup (25% versus 10% of men who say the same).

So the idea here is, if you can get your finger on the pulse and know WHY your ex broke up with you, then it will make your job that so much easier of getting them back.

But be warned… just by know the reason alone is not going to bring your ex back.

You need to have a proven plan that works. All too often, I have folks coming to me that are taking their relationship more and more to a place of no return.

Just be careful NOT TO commit a relationship suicide and cause more damage to that relationship of yours.

After a breakup, there are just as many important “What Not To Do’s” than there are “What To Do’s.”

Remember that.

Good luck and enjoy your weekend.

James.