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Lover's Language

Lover’s language – oh, it can be so powerful and a tool you should be using to pull your ex or current lover even closer to you.

And when I mention “lover’s language”, I don’t just mean rambling off such cutsie things as,

• Hello sweetie pie!
• Who’s the little princess?
• Morning possum!
• You’re the sunshine of my life…
• Who on earth can resist your charm?

Sure, these words sound nice, but they won’t help in getting your ex back. Your ex is looking for something MORE in the language you speak to them.

What they’re looking for is a real conversationalist. Someone whom they can easily spend hours with over a coffee, losing track of time whilst chatting to you on all sorts of things that INTEREST them.

Noticed how I capitalized INTEREST. The conversation has to interest them, NOT you, otherwise you’re hosed.

Remember also, it’s a “conversation” not an argument. Careful not to go down the path of arguing otherwise it’s going to make your job of getting your ex back harder again.

Here’s a little tactic that will help you create that stimulating conversation. Use Their Language!

One of the many books I used to win my ex back was “How To Get The Man / Woman You Want”. One thing that did stand out to me was the below slab of text that I’ve since weaved into my own training for those whom I help.

Playing their words back to them lets them know that you understand them and makes them feel valued.

Asking them about their job when they’ve told you how much they’re looking forward to their new career, or their apartment when they’ve been talking about their home will alienate them.

I think you get the idea, so give it a go and use this to attract your ex back into your life again.

Cheers and enjoy your weekend. Off to try my hand at some rock climbing now.
Jay.