Signs Your Partner Is Losing Interest
Today I’ve decided to shoot off a quick list to determine if the guy you’re dating isn’t into you.
- He’s always too busy to see you.
- He doesn’t call when he says he will. Let’s face it… It takes less than a minute to pickup the phone to call and say “hi”.
100% of men said that they were never too busy to pickup the phone and call a woman that they were really in to. - He doesn’t return your calls.
- He’s happy for you to see other people.
- He cheats on you.
- He only wants to see you late at night. Is he in a relationship with you just for those booty calls? Geez… I hope not.
- He tells you he just wants a casual relationship.
- He flirts with or ogles with women in front of you.
Sure, guys love to look. But most guys have enough respect for their partner to keep their tongue in mouth when a bit of eye candy walks by. - He’s not interested in you sexually.
So how did you fare?
Perhaps the writing’s on the wall if your boyfriend or husband shows signs of the above.
Remember the ‘ol saying…
You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.
Whilst this may be true in many cases, it’s now up to you to “entice” that horse to WANT to drink.
Bringing this philosophy into your relationship, it’s now up to you to “entice” your man to WANT to spend more time with you.
Your relationship is doomed to fail just yet. But these are definitely the warning signs that you need to do something now before it’s too late.
So go find the sweet spots that turn on your man. The things that he loves to do, find those things and do it with him.
Best of luck.
Anon said:
Sep 12, 09 at 9:34 pmI really loved my bf and i always felt it was hard to leave him which really was but there came a time like now i really don’t care i think i still love him though just not as much i dont really care if i see him or speak to him
Michelle said:
Oct 04, 10 at 10:19 amWell recently, my boyfriend has been showing signs that he’s losing interest in me.
I don’t want to jump the gun yet and straight up assume that he is but that’s what it seems like.
It all started when he started to say “I love You” less, and these days, he’s not saying it at all. Then this past week, he called me a pain in the ass.
Then today, I visited him and caught him flirting with another woman online. I love him and all but i don’t want to put myself out there for him to just use me.
I don’t know what to think anymore.
I want to believe that he does love me, but then I want to believe that i know the truth when i see it.
We met like 11 months ago and we decided to tie it all up almost 2 months ago. And now this happens. What do i do?
James Kern said:
Oct 04, 10 at 10:29 amHello Michelle,
I’m glad you’ve kept your eyes open to see these tell-tale signs that your relationship is souring. It’s so much easier to fix things now rather than after a split.
Researchers have found that the KEY to having a successful relationship is to continue to embark upon new and exciting activities together.
Is there something that he is passionate about, or perhaps something you can introduce him to so that you can share the moments together? Trying bringing some more spice into his life, and tuning into his needs.
You can easily add to and strengthen the bond with your partner by continuously introducing new and exciting activities to share in together.
By keeping the excitement going, you also naturally keep the passion and bonding alive too.
Good luck with things!
Rhiana said:
Feb 09, 11 at 10:54 pmI have been feeling like my partner is losing interest, we have been together over 4 years. He has always been very loving, and he still cuddles me alot and tells me he loves me everyday as we go off to work, but I find myself saying it more than him! and sometimes when I say I love you very much, he replies good! I may challenge that and say why is it good? and he will say I wouldn’t want it to be unrequented love.
The problem is I am quite insecure and I have always been jealous (even when I have no need to be) but I’m sure recently, we went to my work do (he never met these people before) and I am sure I saw him looking at one of my very attractive colleagues!
I asked him he said I was looking in that general direction (which could of been true as it was busy).
The main worry is he doesn’t text me anymore unless I text first! He is in a slightly busier job now, but he started working there 7 months ago and a few months ago he use to send me loving texts, in the middle of the day for no reason! I mentioned this to him yesterday he didn’t say much just that it’s not so easy to sneak of and text in this job! But how hard is it to send a quick text? he just isn’t thinking about me I guess?!
What do you think? I have been very down lately and threatened him I was leaving, and that he didn’t love me enough. But that backfired as he didn’t cry or anything just said I haven’t got time for your tantrums!!
James Kern said:
Feb 11, 11 at 10:54 amHello Rhiana,
In the early stages of any relationship, there will always be that heart-throbbing feeling and is what’s known as the “honeymoon period”. You experienced this when your boyfriend would text message you out of the blue and so on.
This doesn’t last. Sooner or later, relationships have to deal with the more mundane issues in life.
Just because your boyfriend doesn’t pamper you as much as he once did, doesn’t mean his love for you is even less.
Don’t be too demanding on him. Don’t threaten him you’ll leave. He doesn’t want to play these games. Instead, plan fun activities and excursions together. Grow together through playing together.
If you start acting childish and demanding more than he is happy to give, then your relationship will sour. So please be cafeful.
Enjoy your weekend.
Anonymous said:
Apr 17, 11 at 4:57 amI’m experiencing the same thing… only i get this feeling that he’s not interested and possibly cheating but I ignore it, I know it’s probably right.
I have some days off. He tells me i don’t have to work this day or this day and I get excited because I would jump at any chance to be able to spend time with him without work getting in the way. But lately on the days he tells me he has off… he springs it on me and says oh i have to work tomorrow. I would believe it if he would stick to his story. One time he said i have to work this day at 12am to 6pm. At 12 he wasn’t even dressed for work..and when i said don’t you have work he goes..i said 12:30… but I’ll probably be late they wont mind.
Lately he’s also stopped initiating sex with me. I never deny him, I just think he’s bored and what he doesn’t realize is I’m bored with our sex life too but he doesn’t really ever want to have sex to give me the chance to try new things with him. We share a computer and recently I found porn sites on the history, and on occasions he will go into the bathroom to relieve himself of the sexual tension. I guess he’d much rather masturbate than have sex with me.
I just don’t get why he doesn’t want to have sex when he’s in his twenties and i know he loves sex.
I always catch him staring at woman.
I’m just in denial i guess. I just love him so much. :[
Sad said:
Oct 19, 11 at 11:54 amMy bf has been very cold to me, I’ve tried every possible way to get things hyped up. Unfortunately, he ignores it. He’s only interested in sex. WHY?