Are You At Risk Of Bumping Into Your Ex?
Bumping Into Your Ex
Ever wondered how to handle the situation where you bump into your ex?
When the wounds of a break up are still fresh, it can be really unnerving to bump into your ex unexpectedly whilst you’re out and about.
If you’ve ever wondered what you should do – if anything! – when this happens, read on.
Situation 1: Your Ex Doesn’t Notice You
Let’s say you’re out to dinner with friends and you notice your ex sitting across the restaurant with her friends – or worse yet, a date! What do you do?
In this case, it’s best not to call attention to yourself. Otherwise you’re violating the social code by causing a scene (even if it’s a small one) in front of your ex’s friends (or date).
Let this one slide by. Don’t stare. Enjoy your time with your friends as if your ex isn’t there.
Situation 2: Your Ex Notices You
Same situation as above, but let’s say your table is by the bathrooms and your ex sees you as they are headed there.
Gauge their body language as they approach. Smile, but wait to see if their body language communicates a willingness to communicate.
If your ex sees you and immediately stiffens and locks their eyes on the bathroom door, it’s best not to interrupt.
If your ex makes eye contact and looks relaxed but a bit nervous, it’s okay to say hello and mention it’s good to see them.
If you can slip in a friendly hand squeeze, all the better. But don’t cling. Say your niceties and allow your ex to go on with their business. You want to communicate that you have a social life without them and that they aren’t the center of your universe.
Situation 3: You’re Both Alone
While you don’t want to drag your ex into a sticky situation in front of your social groups, it’s a different game if you’re both alone.
Again, judge your ex’s body language. If they look uncomfortable, give them your best wishes and let them go on with their day. If there’s a hint of friendliness there, offer to buy them a coffee and see where it leads…
Good luck, and just remember to always play it cool and read your ex’s body language before making any moves.
