Saying Sorry To An Ex
Have you ever gone around in circles trying to find the all time best way to tell your ex that you’re sorry? That you messed up – Big Time.
Maybe that mess up is THE mess up that caused your relationship to explode into a million pieces. So what are you going to do about it?
If you want your ex back, you’re going to have to apologise. Is that a scary thought?
Let’s look at some ways you can do it. All you have to do is pick the one that works best for you.
The Stereotypical Way
Here’s one that you’ve heard before. I’m going to assume you’re a guy here. (Apologies for stereotyping even more here.)
If you’re in the doghouse, you can try the typical way out. Buy her a giant bouquet of flowers and write your apology on the card.
Don’t just buy the “I’m sorry” card and sign your name. Use that 4 inches of space to write a sentence or two about WHY you’re sorry and that you hope she can forgive you. Then send it out and sit and wait for a reply.
The Internet Way
If your mate lives on the internet, it may be best to meet them there, in a place where you can both think out your words before saying them. Make sure your first instant message is a good one though – you don’t want to say “hi” and then end up blocked because your ex is still angry.
Type up a full sentence, but not a novel.
How about:
“John, I’m really sorry that I made that joke about mental illness. Not only did I forget your mother was institutionalised, I’m a really horrible person for joking about such things.”
The Old School Way
Seriously, the hardest part about apologising is saying the words “I’m sorry, I was wrong.”
If you CAN spit those out, the rest of the conversation will come out easily. Just get up the guts to say those and you’re well on your way to making up.
Good luck with it. You’ll feel a lot better after you say it. Trust me.
brandon said:
Jun 09, 09 at 7:49 amHow do you apologise to your ex when she doesn’t even want you talking to her and when you do, she feels harassed and says she gonna file a restraining order if you don’t leave her alone?
I still love her!! but i never hurt her in such a bad way that this sounds.
Hope you can give me advice. Oh Ya! She said in time without bothering her she still will not talk and that she doesn’t talk to her ex’s and never have?
Please help me here im in a tuff pickel!!
Brandon
James Kern said:
Jun 09, 09 at 10:56 amAn apology only needs to be said once… and whilst your ex may not accept it initially, if done properly, over time, they will accept your apology.
But you need to ask yourself – are you legitimately apologising? OR just using the apology as a tactic to get them back? Don’t confuse your real intentions by disguising an apology with in fact a means to get them back.
Everyone loves an apology, so make sure you do it right.
Roger said:
Jun 17, 09 at 11:48 amI have been seeing a certain girl for 3 yrs BUT also talking and meeting others and as a result, lost her.
I was WRONG.
She doesn’t want to see me or answer my emails and letters.
What can I do to get her attention and win her heart back?
She is 54 , I’m 56.
Thanks
bcman2008@yahoo.com
Roger
Jeetu said:
Nov 18, 09 at 5:31 amwell i really felt sorry for situation with brandon.
i too have the same situation and i even got restraining order from her university public safety dept, even i am so confused, what can be done in such a situation.
Really my heart beats for every person, who really wana appolgy and in a tough situation.
i would suggest please don’t go close to her and try to appolgy from a distance without bothering her, and pray that someday she is gona realise the guilt for not talking to you.
best wishes
jeetu